According to research, both married men and women have heart attack rates that are considerably lower than single people of the same age. They are also far more likely to survive a heart attack. A recent study by researchers in Finland found both single men and single women were about two-thirds more likely to suffer heart attacks or unstable angina than those who were married.
This is great news for Gloria and Stanley Rosenzweig, residents at NewBridge on the Charles who are as in love today as the first day they met. Their story is one of true devotion and their marriage holds lessons in how to build a lasting and caring relationship, as well as its benefits.
In 1956 Stanley Rosenzweig had just graduated from college and moved to Boston when his cousin offered to host a dinner and invite his wife’s friend Gloria. So began their romance. In today’s society where half of marriages end in divorce, Stanley and Gloria’s relationship has stood the test of time. When Melissa Quinchia, NewBridge receptionist told them, “I see more than just love between the two of you, I see a very strong friendship like the one two best friends would share,” Gloria agreed and shared a wink with Stanley.
According to Stanley, what he and his wife have is not “unique.” They see many couples still dedicated to one another. Gloria is amazed by the devotion she sees firsthand in the NewBridge community as spouses tend to their significant others, including some who suffer from cognitive issues. “It is absolutely beautiful to see,” says Gloria.
When they “knew:”
Stanley tells a sweet story about the point where he knew Gloria was meant to be his wife. He lived in an apartment with roommates and they had the apartment professionally cleaned by a woman named Julia who also worked in Gloria’s building. According to Stanley, one day Julia asked him when he was planning to marry Gloria? Julia had found Gloria’s picture under Stanley’s pillow while cleaning. Confronted with the question, Stanley realized just how deeply he cared for Gloria. And it turned out the feeling was mutual. According to Gloria, “I liked him from the start. I loved his sense of humor. He looked like Peter Falk in Colombo.”
Their relationship soon met a challenge, but one that lay the foundation for their deep commitment to each other. At one point Stanley was not able to contact Gloria. He soon learned that she was in the hospital diagnosed with M.S. At age 24 she lay in a hospital bed wondering “who’s going to want to marry someone with MS?” Stanley did and they married in May 1958.
Stanley and Gloria are happy to share their advice on marriage. “Marriage should be sacred and valued. Marriage is important because it creates family, and you grow to appreciate your family so much as you get older. We enjoy our kids and grandchildren so much; they love to come visit us here. People give up on marriage so quickly. Marriage takes years of practice, and certain amount of maturity, and always effort,” they say.
They also admit a surprising secret to their marital success — enjoying time apart. Gloria would go out with her friends some nights, which Stanley encouraged. Stanley explains, “My only wish is for her to be happy.”
Gloria and Stanly believe a lasting marriage must include four key elements: communication, honesty, openness, and trustworthiness.
Gloria adds “have no secrets,” not only between you and your husband, but in general – “live life openly, and be open to everything.”